Flip-flopping

Flip-flopping means changing your expressed ideas to match the mood or sentiments of a given group in order to gain their adulation and support. ( I made up this definition, but I think it is accurate.) It is used often of politicians in pursuit of high office to deride their change in positions, or actions taken that were different from what they have expressed. Any deviation from a previously held position is looked upon as a traitorous flip-flop.

I do not like to use such a derisive term for anyone, unless it is apparent, and transparent that such is the case.

I like to leave room for growth through thoughtful reconsideration. I would not like to be held to the ideas which I held at any other stage of my life, other than the present. Some of my ideas from ages past are still valid, some are vastly changed. I believe those which have changed are steps toward growth; those which are still valid have been refined; all are subject to future refinement through thoughtful reconsideration.

Here are some unembellished examples:

Might makes right-I remember writing a composition about this for the English regents examination in high school. I justified a strong military with the notion that USA could do whatever, as long as we had the might to do it. Simple, yes; also unprincipled and naïve. I no longer believe that. I have grown and changed my mind. I now question the use of the military in almost all circumstances, and would welcome diplomacy as the ultimate source of peace in the world.
Catholic education should be the rule for Catholics, and it should and will be supported no matter what- Throughout the years, I have come to realize the value of a public education as I participated in that as a teacher and guidance counselor over the years. For all the good  of the Catholic education that I had, I have come to realize that there are huge benefits that come through the public process, and that is important to support.
Martin Luther King- When he first opposed the War in Vietnam, I thought he was overstepping his  boundaries. Within months, I had changed my mind about his stance on the war, and realized he was right on.
Divorce- It was a huge no-no when I grew up, but over the years, I have come to understand why it happens, and why it is necessary at times to save individuals involved in a bad situation.

There are many other thoughts, attitudes, ways that have shaped the me who is writing and living now. Thank the source of life and love for that.

I think that is the way with most people. We should never judge; but listen. Listen for the grown up; listen for the now person; listen to understand. Who knows what tomorrow will bring.